There comes a time in your life when you begin to notice changes in your relationships—subtle shifts that seem to create distance, discomfort, or even disconnection where closeness once thrived. At first, it may feel like something is wrong. But if you lean in and listen, you may discover that what’s shifting is you.
You’ve grown. You’ve healed. You’ve matured in the things of God. And as you shift into new levels of spiritual awareness and purpose, those who were once comfortable with you may begin to feel uncomfortable. Why? Because the version of you that they could accept, manage, or even control no longer exists. The connection they had with you was contingent on a limited view of who you were—not the fullness of who you are becoming.
Some people will recognize your call, but they will treat you as though you will never actually walk in it—especially if it might require them to see you differently, to honor what God has placed inside you, or to make room for the new oil flowing from your life. When that happens, it’s not time to fight for validation; it’s time to release that old expectation. Don’t release the love, but release the hold.
The Hypothetical Question, and a Revealed the Truth
Years ago, the Lord instructed me to ask a hypothetical question to a few people close to me. The question involved me offering something I had—something valuable, something that represented my call—and asking if they would be willing to share it with me.
Their response was varied, simple: “Oh, do you have it now?”
At the time, I didn’t fully understand what that meant. It felt like a passing comment, but years later, the Holy Spirit brought it back to my remembrance. That question revealed their posture—not one of readiness to receive or walk alongside what God had placed within me, but of distance and doubt. They couldn’t celebrate what they didn’t believe I actually carried. And now, as I look back, I see clearly that their response mirrored their level of faith in what God had deposited in me.
The Box, the Bow, and the Breaking Point
Sometimes what God places inside you—your anointing, your insight, your spiritual gifts—can be suppressed by those you’re connected to. These are people who only want to see themselves as the givers, the leaders, the ones “pouring out,” and so they keep you tightly wrapped up in a box.
They’ll compliment the bow and the wrapping paper, admiring how well you look “contained.” But they will not release you to be effective in their lives—not in a real way.
If you stay wrapped too long, one of two things will happen:
- You’ll grow tired and begin to waste away, or
- You’ll become too full, too pregnant with purpose, too expanded for that small space—and you’ll burst out.
When that moment comes, don’t be afraid of the tearing. Don’t mourn the paper. When the wrapping breaks, it simply means the gift is ready. And when you finally step out of that box, you’ll see clearly that there are many waiting for you—people who need the very thing you’ve been carrying all along.
The Fear of Connection
Sometimes people don’t want you to connect because they fear your connection will diminish theirs. They don’t realize that your connection is not competition—it’s conduit. God uses covenant connections to multiply grace, not divide it.
In the Body of Christ, this is especially true. Covenant relationships—those divinely ordained partnerships and friendships—are designed to build the Kingdom, not egos. Whether in church, leadership circles, friendships, or workplace ministries, these connections are meant to sharpen, not stifle.
But when fear, insecurity, or control enter the picture, the covenant can become a cage. And when that happens, God Himself will begin to shift things—because He will not allow His assignment on your life to be smothered.
When the Wrapping Tears — The Pain and the Purpose
Tearing the wrapping is never painless. There’s something sacred about that moment when you finally decide to stop shrinking just to fit inside spaces that were never meant to hold you. The sound of that tear echoes — not just through the room, but through your heart.
You feel it when familiar voices grow quiet. When comfort turns cold. When your obedience to God offends those who preferred your silence over your sound. The tearing hurts because the wrapping once represented acceptance, belonging, and safety. But what once covered you can no longer contain the becoming that’s happening inside of you.
Beloved, the pain of the tear is not punishment — it’s proof. Proof that you are maturing. Proof that purpose is pressing through. Proof that Heaven has signed its approval on your life and is calling you higher.
When you live with purpose, for purpose, and under the approval of God, you no longer chase validation — you carry it. You no longer beg to be seen — you shine by assignment. The wrapping tears, but in its place, revelation is revealed. You see who you are, who God is, and what He’s been forming in secret.
So if the wrapping has begun to tear, don’t rush to tape it back together. Let it fall away. You are not losing covering — you are stepping into calling.
🔥 Prophetic Charge🔥
Beloved, this is your moment to break free from the wrapping paper and step boldly into your divine calling. The Lord says, “You are not being unwrapped for exposure, but for expansion.”
Do not let the comfort of old relationships keep you boxed in. Those who cannot see you beyond where you were cannot steward who you are becoming. Release the hold, honor the lessons, and walk forward in love—but walk forward.
You have been hidden, but not forgotten. You have been wrapped, but not wasted. And now, as you rise, the world will see the light that’s been inside you all along.
It’s time to walk in the fullness of your call.
Break free. Burst forth. Be unveiled.
For the gift of God within you is ready to be revealed.
The wrapping has torn — now it’s time to write your next chapter.
Your breakthrough deserves a record.
Your wisdom deserves a voice.
Declaration…
“I declare over my life that I will not fear the tearing. Every fold that comes undone is God’s design for my growth. I will no longer shrink to fit the limitations of others, nor will I hide the gifts He has placed within me. I walk boldly in my calling, fully covered by His purpose and His approval. I release the hold of old expectations, yet I keep the love. I step into the fullness of what God has created me to be, and I become a blessing to all He has prepared me to reach. Amen.”
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